Compiled by London swaminathan


Date: 1 FEBRUARY 2017


Time uploaded in London:-  9-32 am


Post No. 3595



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Who is your reliable friend?

At home your wife is your reliable friend

In a foreign country, your knowledge or your wisdom is your best friend.

For a sick person, his or her medicine is the friend.

When you are dead Dharma is your best friend. Nothing else can accompany you. Whatever you have done good when you are alive will help you.

This is what our forefathers have found in course of thousands of years and have summarised their wisdom in two beautiful lines:-

Pravaase vidyaa- Knowledge in foreign country

Grhe bhaaryaa – Wife at home

Vyaadhitah ausadam- Medicine for the sick

Mrtasya dharma- Dharma for the dead


Vidyamitram pravaseshu bharyamitram Genesis ca

Vyaditasyausadam mitramdharmo mitram mrtasya ca

—-Sushasita Ratna Bhandagara159-287


How do you get Friends?


Aurasa-Born of same parents

Krtasambhandha-Related by marriage


Rakshaka-Protector in suffering


Aurasam krtasambandhamtatha vamsakrmaghatam

Rakshakam vysanebhya ca  mitral njeyam caturvidham

—Kamandakiya Nitisastra


The protector in suffering is a very interesting one. In Tamil and Sanskrit literature, we come across several poems where in a girl falls in love with someone who protected her. This is a theme widely used in feature films as well. It may be saving someone is who is drowning or someone who is attacked by a tiger or someone dying in poverty.




Tamil Wisdom

Tamil saint Tiruvalluvar has summarised the good things about friendship in ten couplets in the Tail Veda ‘Tirukkural’


Valluvar compares good and friends with the moon in one of his couplets:

The friendship of the worthy develops day by day like like the waxing crescent moon,

but foolish alliances deteriorate as the waning thereof –(Kural 782)


He says good friends are like great books:

As one sees greater beauty and derives enhanced pleasures, from the deeper study of a great book, Noble friendships gain in worth and grace day by day (783)

Swimmer Flavia Zoccari’s wardrobe malfunction (valluvar used this as a simile)

He adds,

Friendship is not for laughing and merry making. It is to hit at wrong movements by harsh advice.(784).

But Valluvar is at his best when he talks about how quick one should help one’s friend in distress:

Like the hand that, that goes to the rescue when a garment slips, stepping into help

When a friend faces adversity, is true friendship (788)

This is reflex action. When one’s garments slips, the hand picks it up quickly. We have seen many such awkward moments in the public events. Valluvar must also have seen such slips!


There are beautiful quotations about Friendship in Panchatantra and Valmiki Ramayana. I will give them in another post.




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