How can you tackle Angry People?



WRIITEN BY london swaminathan

Date : 11 September  2015

Post No. 2148

Time uploaded in London: –   19-16

(Thanks  for the pictures)



Great harm may be caused by anger. Therefore one should restrain anger towards anybody – Tirukkural 303


Can there be greater enemy than anger which flares up, destroying one’s peace of mind and cheerfulness? – 304


If one wishes to safeguard oneself, one should control anger. If not, it is bound to ruin oneself – 305


How Mataji tamed a Modern Durvasa

Swami Ramdas of Ananashramam narrated this anecdote:–

Sadhus (ascetics), to whatever denomination, sect or creed they belong, welcome at Anandhasram situated near Kanhankad in Northern Kerala. Sometimes we would find scuffles and fights going on amongst them in the Ashram Dharmashala. One would say to the other, “You should not touch me. Stand farther away! You belong to a lower sect. You have no business to sit close to me. Why did you touch my leaf? You have polluted the leaf on which I was served my food and so on and so forth”.

anger cartoon

Once a Sadhu came to the Ashram and would not eat food in the common dining hall. So he cooked his food separately. He was given the necessary provisions such as rice, dhal, ghee, wheat flower and vegetables for cooking his food. One day he had taken a bucket from the ashram for storing water. He had, of course his own Lota/tumbler which was used by him for drinking water and other purposes.  He also kept the bucket, nearly half full, by his side it was rather close to the plantain leaf on which he had, as usual, served his food , prepared by himself. He sat down for eating.

Just then, a woman worker of the ashram went there. She wanted the bucket, as it was the one used by her for washing utensils. She was about to take vessel, and had hardly touched it, when the sadhu shouted: “How did you dare to touch my bucket? You have polluted the whole place I cannot take this food”.

He became wild and started cursing and shouting at her. We could hear him in the ashram.  He was jumping about with uncontrollable fury. The woman, unable to stand all this ran away from the place and came to Mataji Krishnabai. In a moment, another person came and reported to Mataji: “The sadhu has collected all the food he had cooked and served on the leaf and thrown it away to the dogs. He is still fretting and fuming. Nobody dare approach him”.

The sadhu was short and stout in stature and had a ferocious look. He had a grizzly beard and a matted hair on his head. Mataji looked at his wild behaviour from a distance and found he was burning with anger. He looked like a modern Durvasa in action. She felt that something must be done to calm him down. She went inside the kitchen store. There were in it some water melons. She cut them into nicely shaped pieces and got also some fine variety of plantains and two tender coconuts. All these she placed on a plate and asked another worker to ake it to the sadhu. She also followed the worker to the place where the sadhu was.


When the sadhu saw the plate with the juicy red water melon pieces and other fine fruits, and Mataji coming along with them, his anger cooled down a bit. Mataji said to him: “The woman worker committed a mistake but she never intentionally did it. Will you just take the fruits on this plate?”  She handed him also a big pitcher full of sweet warm milk. He now sat down and began to eat and when nearly half the fruit and milk was finished, he came back to normal.

Mataji is a tamer of lions. A smile appeared on the sadhu’s face when the whole quantity of fruits and milk went down. Now he was perfectly cheerful. Mataji then asked him, “ How do you feel?” He replied, “Quite happy, mother!”  At last, he went about telling everybody that Mataji was supremely gracious. “The food I had prepared was nothing in comparison”, he said. “What she gave me was veritable nectar. My body was burning, but it has cooled down now. I am most grateful to her”.

DURVASA: An angry saint in the Hindu Mythology, who was famous for his anger and curses

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