Written by London Swaminathan 


Date: 20 JANUARY 2018


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Post No. 4640

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We all know why Chankaya conspired to throw the mighty Nanda dynasty. I already gave the story how he was insulted for being ugly. so no wonder Chanakya gives the following advice:


“A wise man should marry a girl of a good family, though she be ugly, and not the beautiful one (the daughter) of a lowly family. Marriage has to be in a matching family”-

chapter 1, sloka 14 of Chanakya Niti.


varayet kulajaam praaknjo virupaamapi kanyakaam

ruupavatiir wa niichasya vivaahah sadruse kule



in chapter 3, he says sukule yojayet kanyaam i.e one should marry a daughter in a good family



Chanakya continues,”The kings speak but once, so do the learned men

Girls are given in marriage but once.

All these take place but once.”

sakrujjalpanti raajaanah sakrujjalpanti panditaah

sakrytkanyaah pradiiyante triinyetaani sakrut sakrut

chapter 4, sloka 11




A young woman for an old man is poison

vruddhasya tarunii visham- says in chapter 4.




Chanakya defines a good wife,

“That one is a good wife who is pure, efficient, devoted to husband, liked by him and is truthful”.

saa bhaaryaa yaa suchirdakshaa saa bhaaryaa yaa pativrata

saa bharyaa yaa patipriitaa saa bharyaa satyavaadinii

chapter 4, sloka 13



If couple don’t quarrel, fortune comes!


“Where the fools are not adored,

where there is a good store of food grains,

where the couples do not quarrel,

fortune comes there herself”

muurkhaa yatra na puujyante dhaanyam yatra susanchitam

dampatyooh kalaho naasti tatra sriih svayamaagataa

chapter 3, sloka 21.




The wife of the king, the wife of the teacher, the wife of a friend, the mother of the wife (the mother in law), and one’s own mother are said to be mothers

Chanakya Niti, chapter 4, sloka 2o


xxx SUBHAM xxx




Written by London Swaminathan 


Date: 5 DECEMBER 2017 


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Post No. 4462

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(Tamil Joke: Husband:While I read my love letters now which i sent you before marriage, i feel they were nonsense/rubbish; Wife: Oh, for me they looked nonsense/rubbish even before marriage!)

Manu in his Manava Dhrama Shastra and Tiru Valluvar in his Tamil Veda Tirukkural support marriage; but Jain Munis who composed several hundred poems in Tamil in Naladiyar and Pazamozi had different views. Dr G U Pope, Christian priest and Tamil scholar, Father Constantine Beschi, Jesuit priest from Italy and a Tamil scholar had compared several couplets in Tirukkural and Manu’s Law book. Dr G U Popes puts forth several arguments in his translation of Tirukkural, published in 1886, to prove that Tiruvalluvar, author of Tirukkural was not a Jain. One of the arguments is about marriage.


Tiruvalluvar, an ardent Hindu supports marrying. Dr G U Pope compared couplet 41 with Manu’s 3-78 and showed Naladiyar, the poems of Jains were opposed to marriage.


We know the views of the Greek philosopher Socrates:

“By all means marry; if you get good wife, you will become happy; if you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher.”


Tamil poet Valluvar says,

He is the true householder who helps the three orders of the virtuous (Brahmachari, Vanaprastan, Sanyasin) in their home life is the fruit of love begotten by a harmonious, right path of life.


Even before Valluvar, Manu said the same in Sanskrit:

“3.78. Because men of the three (other) orders are daily supported by the householder with (gifts of) sacred knowledge and food, therefore (the order of) householders is the most excellent order (Manu).”

Marriage is throwing Stones at you!

Naladiyar, the didactic book has 400 verses composed by Jain saints of Tamil Nadu who were great Tamil scholars. Here are two poems opposing marriage:

“Since it is a hard thing for a husband to reject his wife though she may neither have borne children nor have a good disposition, the wise have, on account of the misery entailed by matrimony, called it a thing to be eschewed – Naladiyar verse 56.

“Though one is advised to eschew marriage, he eschews it not; though the sound of death-drum pierces his ear , he heeds it not. He moreover takes in another wife and indulges in the delusion of matrimonial pleasures. These the wise say ‘ like one stoning himself’ “- Naladiyar 364


‘to be or not to be’ is up to you!




Marriage between Heaven and Earth (Post No.4301)

Written by London Swaminathan


Date:14 October 2017


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Post No. 4301

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The Heaven Father and the Earth Mother are two of the ancient deities in the Rig Veda. They are revered as primitive pair from whom the rest of the Vedic gods sprung. They are described in the Vedas as ‘wise, great and energetic’. They ‘promote happiness and lavish gifts upon their worshippers’. Their marriage is a most poetic conception. In the Aitareya Brahmana (4-27) the marriage of Heaven and Earth is mentioned:

“The gods then brought the two, Heaven and Earth together, and when they came together they performed a wedding of the gods.”

“The Vedas set before us a world of rich and vigorous life, full of joyous fighting men”, says Huxley.

“These two worlds were once joined (subsequently) they separated. (After their separation) There fell neither rain, nor was sunshine.

This marriage of heaven and earth were found in many cultures. They have borrowed it from the Vedic Hindus. The Greeks addressed the Earth, ‘as the Mother of the gods and starry heavens’.

In the 41st fragment of Aezchylus (from the Danaides), Aphrodite is introduced as saying, “The pure heaven loves to inflict upon earth an amorous blow; and desire seizes the Earth to obtain the nuptial union. Rain falling from the moist Heaven impregnates the Earth, who brings forth for mortals the food of sheep, the sustenance of Demeter (Deva Mata= demeter). The verdure of the woods also is perfected by the showers preceding from this marriage. Of all these things I (Aphrodite) am in part of the cause”

French author Albert Reville says, that “the marriage of Heaven and Earth form the foundation of hundred mythologies”.


Max Muller Bluff

Max Muller and Wilkins spread wrong information that Dyaus (Sky father) and Prithvi (Mother Earth) as ‘the most ancient deities of the Aryans and they were replaced by Indra and Agni later’. But there is no proof for it. All the references to marriage of Dyaus (sky) with Prthvi (earth) come from later part of the Vedas. Greeks borrowed it from us and pronounced it as Zeus.


Moreover, in the early Mandalas Agni and Indra are praised more than the Dyaus and Prithvi. The early Suktas divided it into three Sky, Atmosphere and Earth. Even the parents of Earth and Heaven (Pusan) are mentioned. So his concocted story that the Earth and the Heaven are ‘the most ancient deities’ has no basis.


If one idiot says something 1000 idiots repeat it without verifying the fact. With very great enthusiasm, he identified himself with those ‘’marching Aryans’’ who entered India .

Dyaus in Rig Veda :

“At the festivals ( I worship) with offerings, and celebrate the praises of Heaven and Earth, the promoters of righteousness, the great, the wise, the energetic, who, having gods for their offspring, thus lavish with the gods the choicest blessings in consequence of our hymn”

“With my invocations I adore the thought of beneficent Father, and that mighty inherent power of the mother. The prolific parents have made all creatures, and through their favours (have conferred) wide immortality on their offspring”—Rig Veda 1-159-1


One must be careful about English translation of the Vedas. No two foreign authors agree on the meanings of the Vedic mantras. And these people add ‘Sayana said’, ‘Sayana thinks’, ‘Sayana believed ‘and then add “Aryan” as a race. Sayana never used it in that sense. He used it like the ancient Tamils used Arya in Sangam literature and Greatest Tamil poet Bharati used Arya throughout his poems; in short, no racial connotation! They meant ‘cultured’, ‘who believed God’. Even Buddha used Arya (Ajja= ayya= ayyar in Tamil) in the right sense. Those who use English translations of the foreign authors must be very careful; there are over 40 interpretations on the word Asura and origin of Asuras!!!

Dyaus Pita | Tamil and Vedas

In the hymns there are various speculations about the origin of Dyaus and Prithvi. A Perplexed poet enquires, “Which of these was the first, and which the last?



Interesting Anecdote about Shaalagraama (Fossil) Marriage (Post No.4292)

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Date:11 October 2017


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Post No. 4292

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Interesting Anecdote about Shaalagraama (Fossil) Marriage (Post No.4292)

What is a Shalagrama?

Hindus worship fossils with several designs made by the impressions of dead animals. Such stones are millions of years or thousands of years old. Devotees of Lord Vishnu regard them as a most sacred objects. They see the symbols of Lord Vishnu (Chakra=wheel, Shank= Conch) in it. Normally other stone images of Gods must be consecrated in a special ceremony by a priest before they can be used; but with Shalagrama (Fossil stone) you can worship straight away. This stone is inherently sacred and is worshipped as a part of deity himself. It is a round black ammonite and is found in River Gandaki in Nepal. They are valued according to their size, hollowness, and inside colouring and impression. For rarer kind big amount of money is given.


Hindus believe that whoever keeps this celebrated stone in the house can never become poor; they never want to part with it. It is passed from one generation to another generation for Puja/worship.

Bhagavata Purana has a story about Shalagrama:

Vishnu created nine planets (celestial objects) to preside over the fates of men. Sani/Saturn commenced his reign by requesting Brahma to become subject to him for 12 years. Brahma referred him to Vishnu, who asked him to call on him next day. When he called, he found that the god, dreading the influence of the inauspicious planet, had transformed himself into a mountain. Sani them became a worm, and ate into the vitals of the mountain for twelve years. At the expiration of that time Vishnu resumed his proper shape, and ordered henceforth the stones of this mountain Gandaki should be worshipped as the representatives of himself.


Hindus worship this form of Vishnu in homes. They first bathe or wash the stone, reciting the mantras and then offer flowers, incense, light sweetmeats and water, repeating the mantras. After the worship the offerings ae eaten by the family.


In the hot months, to cool the sacred stone,  a vessel is suspended over it, as in the case of the Linga/ Shiva, and a small hole is bored into the bottom of the vessel. The water poured into the vessel drips over the Shalagrama stone/s. The water is collected and used as holy water. The marks of the stone are shown to dying men, in the belief that the concentration of the mind on this object will ensure the soul a safe passage to Vaikund, Vishnu’s abode.

A separate room or a particular spot in the Hindu houses is kept for the worship of the gods.


Shalagrama – Tulsi Plant Wedding


There is a very interesting account of a marriage of Shalagrama with Tulsi (Holy Basil) plant in a 100 year old book:


“The king of Orrcha in Central India, used to spend three lakhs of rupees (100 years ago) on this marriage. The officiating priests get good fees. A procession of 8 elephants, 1200 camels and 6000 horses, all mounted and elephants caparisoned. On the leading elephant of this cortege was carried the Pebble God (shalagrama/ fossil). He was carried to pay his bridal visit to the little shrub goddess/Tulsi.


All the ceremonies of a regular marriage were gone through, and when completed the bride and bridegroom were left to repose together in the temple of Ludhaura till the next year. Over one lakh people were present, and they were feasted at the king’s expenses”.


In addition to the black ammonites (shalagrama), white agates, typifying Shiva in his linga form and red stones, as symbolising Ganesa with certain forms of coral, are also worshipped.


Shashthi, protectress of married women and of children has no temples or idols, but her proper representation is  a rough stone, smeared with red paint and set up at the foot of a banyan tree. Lord Shiva is worshipped by the well known Linga (formless) stone.

Source: The Gods of India by Rev Osborne Martin, 1914




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Article No. 2004

Compiled  by London swaminathan

Date 19 July 2015

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Sanskrit language has got lot of tips in the form of proverbs, golden sayings (Subhashitam), hymns and quotations which will help anyone under any circumstances. Here are some tips about wedding, dress and wife.

Choosing a girl:–

When choosing a girl who looks for what?

Kanyaa varayate rupam = Daughter prefers good looking husband

Mataa vittam = mother looking for a wealthy man (for her daughter)

Pitaa srutam = Father looking for an intelligent person

Baandhavaah kulam = Relations look for good family background

Itarejanaah = others look for delicious food; good feast

Kanyaa varayate ruupam mataa vittam pitaa srutam

Bhandavaah kulamichchanti mishtaamitare janaah

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Good wife should have five “LA”s

If you are lucky your will have these five Lakaaras

AnukuLA = Beneficiary

vimaLAngi = Blemishness

kuLAjaa  = Born in a good family

kuusaLA = Efficient

susiiLAa = Having good conduct

anukuulaam vimalaangim kulajaam kusalaam susiila sampannaam

pancalakaaraam bhaaryaam purushah punyodayaallabhate

–Subhasita ratna bhandaakaaram


If you are a man and want to command respect you must have five “V”s:–

VAtsaram = good clothes

VApuh = good look

VAk = good speech

Vidyaa = Knowledge

Vinaya = Modesty

Vastrena vapushaa vaachaa vidyayaa vinayena cha

Vakaaraih panchaabhih hiina: naro naayaati gauravam


Easy Way to become a Philosopher!


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Article No.1934

Date :15th June 2015

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Socrates’ marital difficulties are well known. Out of them he coined this sage advice: “By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you will become very happy; if you get bad one you will become a philosopher – and that is good for everyman”.

To be or Not to be

When Socrates was asked whether it was better for a man to marry or remain single, he answered:

“Let him take which course he will, he will repent of it”

Thunder and Rain

From my post 60 Second Interview with Socrates (posted on 12-2-2012)

We understand that your wife was very rude to you. One day she scolded you for lecturing. When you did not stop, she poured on you a bucket full of water. Shakespeare in his play “Taming of the Shrew” mentions your wife’s rudeness. What did you say to your friends then?


You heard thunder and now it is raining”.

HOD HASHARON, ISRAEL - OCTOBER 31:  A flash of lightning lights up the sky before dawn on October 31, 2009 over Hod Hasharon in central Israel. The storm brought much needed rain to the Holy Land which has been suffering from years of below normal precipitation leaving the Sea of Galilee and underground aquifers at dangerously low levels.  (Photo by David Silverman/Getty Images)


Football and Marriage

An old gentleman, who had never attended a football game, allowed himself to be persuaded by a fan to accompany him. “Now then”, said his friend, as the game was about to begin, “you are going to see more excitement for a couple of dollars than you ever saw before”. “I doubt it”, said the old timer, “that’s all I paid for my marriage license”

The Light has Gone out

A widower in his great bereavement, expressed his feelings by having engraved on the tombstone of his wife the line, “My light has gone out”. As he was about to marry again, he asked the advice of Bishop Henry C.Potter as to  whether or not he should have the inscription erased as it seemed at variance with the new conditions.

“Oh, No,” said the Bishop, “I wouldn’t have taken it off; just put underneath it, “I have struck another match”.

Rose and Thorns

When the poet Milton was blind he married a shrew. The Duke of Buckingham called her a rose. “I am no judge of colours”, replied Milton, “and it may so, for I feel the thorns daily”.


Tamil and English Proverbs

There is a Tamil proverb , “After marriage there will be  desire for sixty days, lust will last thirty days, and after ninety days have passed, she will be considered a broomstick ( In Tamil – Aasai arupathu Naal, moham muppathu Naal, Thonnuuru Naalum ponaal Thudappai kattai).

There is an equivalent English proverb:

“When a couple are newly married, the first month is honey moon or smick and smack;

The second is hither and thither;

The third is thwick-thwack;

The fourth – The devil take them that brought thee and me together”.

“Mother, what sort of a thing is marriage?

Daughter, it is spinning, bearing children and weeping”.