Don’t Live on Wife’s Money or Woman’s Income! (Post No. 2966)


Written by London swaminathan

Date:12 July 2016

Post No. 2966

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There is a beautiful couplet in Sanskrit about the property inherited from or the money earned from a woman or father.


Uttamam sva aarjitam, madhyamam pitur  aarjitam

Adhamam sevakaavittam, strii vittam adhamaadhamam


Money earned by oneself is the best;

Money/property inherited from father is O.K.;

Money earned by working under someone is bad;

Living on money earned by a woman is the worst.


The couplet says “woman’s money” (Strii Vittam) and so it MAY mean property of your wife or money from your mother or money earned by your daughter/ wife/mother. You should never live on that money because you will lose respect and lose control over the family. In the worst cases you may even be insulted or ignored.

When women started earning a five digit salary, they lost control over themselves. They do not know what to do with such a big sum at their disposal. The money came with a new set of problems. They became arrogant and uncontrollable.

1.They became very “independent” and went out at odd times with odd people and behaved awkwardly.

2.When parents saw a big income coming through their daughters they postponed the girl’s marriage or the girl postponed it thinking that the income would get a bridegroom easily. Parents enjoyed their lives in daughter’s money. They knew once she is married, they will have to live frugally.

  1. In some families it was alright for the elders, but the children suffered. They lost parental care and affection. Childminders and baby sitters became their real parents and as a result parents lost respect. When they grew old they gave the same treatment to their parents. Parents needed “parent minders” and “parent sitters” in the old age home. A new job was created in the name of “Carers”.


Manu’s Advice!


Manu advised brothers and brothers in law to buy all clothes and jewellery to women and keep them always happy. In another couplet, he said deities reside where women are kept happy. In the third couplet he said the families will be destroyed completely where women are unhappy.

If women are treated with such respect in a community, then there is no need for women to work or they can at least avoid hard work and full time job.

About Guru/ Spiritual Teacher

No country in the world gave so much respect to the parents and Teachers, like the Hindus.


Long Live Guru!

There is a couplet in Sanskrit which says what would happen to one, when one shows respect or disrespect to his or her Guru:–


Guruun abyarchya vardhante aayushaa yasasaa sa sriiyaa

Praanino yah avamanyante bhavanti iha sa raakshasaah


Those who show respect to the Gurus will enjoy long life, fame and wealth (vardhante= long life, fame and wealth grow, increase); those who show disrespect to their teachers become demons (in character and behaviour).



Respect Five Things

You should respect the following five:




Good work

Education (Learning)

The beauty is one is more respected than the other (from top); that means Education or learning commands more respect than all the other four. Even kings saluted the learned. The learned went to various countries without a visa or a permit in the ancient world. Usually the saints are considered learned. So they commanded respect from everyone. Kings and elderly people fell at their feet.

Here is the couplet that gives this message:

Vittam banduh vayah karma; vidyaa bhavati Panchamii

Etaani maanyasthaanaani gariiyo yatyat uttaram


These Sanskrit couplets show the ancient wisdom of the Hindus; what they considered most important or least respected in a society. No where in the world, in no other language in the world we can see such great sayings at the remotest time on all topics. Greek, Hebrew, Chinese, Latin and Tamil have good literature but later than the Sanskrit literature. Tamil is the youngest of the six languages. Tamil literature came after the Latin literature around first century CE. Though we have voluminous literary materials in Sumerian and Egyptian, those are not superior to the classical literature.

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