Sex Secrets! Satyabhama boldly asks Draupadi in Mahabharata!!


Lord Krishna with his wives Rukmini and Sthyabhama

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Date: 6   October 2015

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Following conversation between Draupadi and Krishna’s wife Sathyabhama is found in Vanaparva (3-38) of Mahabharata:

Amazing details of house keeping, human psychology, and ancient ways of showing respect – all covered by Vyasa in this chapter.


Satyabhama’s Question:

How do you conduct yourself, Draupadi, when you attend on the Pandavas? Why are they ever angry at you? Hey! Beauty! Tell me. Have you done any penance (tapas)? Do you use any special ablution, spells or herbs? A powerful knowledge of roots (drugs)? Some prayer or Fire oblation (Yaga) or Drug? Tell me the glorious secret of your sexual power, Krshnaa!

(Krishna with a short vowel sound is Lord Krishna; Krishnaa with a long vowel is Draupadi)

When Sathyabhama stopped speaking, Draupadi replied:

“You, beloved queen of Krishna! Such questions and uncertainties do not become you. When a husband finds out that his woman uses spells and drugs on him, he gets as frightened of her as of a snake that has got into the house. What peace that a frightened man have, and what happiness without peace? No husband has ever been made uxorious with a (magic) spell! It is murderous men who under the name of herbs use poison or the dreadful diseases that have been sent by his ill wishes. The powders a man takes on the tongue or skin will kill him shortly, no doubt of that.

“ I serve the Pandavas and their wives always religiously without selfishness, likes and dislikes. In return for their affection I place my soul in theirs, obey them without self- seeking and guard the hearts of my husband without fear or wrong word, wrong stand, wrong glance, wrong seat, wrong walk or misinterpretation of a gesture; that is the way I serve the Parthas, men like sun, fire and moon, great warriors who kill with a glace, awesomely sharp and mighty. No other men could please me, be a God or man or a Gandharva, youth rich or handsome.

“I do not eat or lie down until my husband has eaten or lain down or bathed, ever, even when there are servants.

“When my husband comes home from the field, the wood or the village, I get up to meet him and make him feel welcome with a seat and drink of water.

“My store rooms are scrubbed, my food is good. I serve the meal in time, I am at it, the rice is well stored, and the house is spotless.

“I talk directly, and do not seek bad women for company, and I am always agreeable, never lazy.




“I avoid laugh, when there is no joke, only briefly tarry at a door, am not long in privy or the gardens. I avoid laughing too much or carping too much and give no cause for anger.

“I am always truly devoted to serving my husbands, and never in any way do I wish them ill.

“When my husband sleeps out on some family business, I go without flowers and make-up, and follow a vow.

“What my husband does not drink, what my husband does not chew, what my husband does not eat, I avoid it all.

“Well trained according to the prescriptions, well-adorned and most eager, beautiful woman, I am bent on what is good for my husband.

“The laws that forever operate on households, I have heard them all from my mother-in-law: the begging, the thrown-offering, the Sraddha, the milk dish at new and full moon (Amavasya and Purnima), and whatever other matters the mindful mind, I know them.

“My law rests on my husband, as, I think, it eternally does with women. He is the God, he is path, nothing else; what woman could displease him?

“I don’t out sleep my men, nor out eat or out-talk them, and never complain about my mother-in-law, however aggravated I am.

“And by this constant attention, my lovely, by this daily-up-and –about, and by obedience to my elders I got upper hand of my husbands.

“There is no day that I do not wait on the Lady Kunti, mother of heroes, speaker of truth, all by myself, bathing her, dressing her, feeding her. Would I ever contradict her, in matters of cloths, jewelry, or food? No, I never complain about our Prtha (Kunti), who equals earth herself”.

Having heard this account, informed by Law, from Krshnaa (Draupadi), Sathya paid honour to the Pancali woman of the law like habits; “I am with you, Pancali Yajnaseni (Draupadi), forgive me: for it is not the way with woman friends to speak freely in jest?”



Let me talk of the way, unopprobious way,

For a woman to hold the heart of her husband:

You walk that way, friend, the proper way,

And you will cut your man from his mistresses.

There is no such deity, Sathya, here

In all worlds with all their divinities

Like a husband: you are rich in every wish

If you please him right; if he is angry you are dead.

You get children and all kinds of comforts,

A place to sleep and to sit and marvellous sights,

And clothes, and flowers and certainly perfumes

And the world of heaven and steady repute.

No bliss is found easily on earth,

A good woman finds happiness through hardship;

So worship Krishna with happy heart

With love and always the acts of affection.

When from tasty dishes and beautiful garlands,

From domestic adeptness and various perfumes

He reasons that he must be dear to you,

He himself will embrace you with all his love.

When you hear the sound of your man at the door

Rise up and stand in the middle of the house:

When you he has entered make haste with a seat

And receive him with water to wash his feet.

And send your serving women away,

Get up and do all the chores yourself:

Then Krishna will surely know your heart;

She loves me completely, Sathya, he will think.

draupadi krishna


Whatever your lord may say in your presence,

Even though no secret, keep it a secret.

A co-wife of yours will surely report you

To Vasudeva and he will turn away.

Invite for a meal, by hook or by crook,

Your husband’s favourites, faithfuls, and friends,

And cut forever his foes and opponents,

His ill-wishers, blackguards, and the insolent rude.

If you find your man drunk or distracted,

Control your temper and hold your tongue;

Though Pradyumna and Samba are your sons,

Don’t ever attend to them secretly.


Ravivarma’s painting of Disrobing of Draupadi


Strike up a friendship with highborn ladies

And women of virtue and without vice:

The bellicose, bibulous, gluttonous ones.

The bad, thievish, fickle you must avoid.





This advice of Draupadi to Sathyabhama is found in Vanaparva of Mahabharata. Translated from Sanskrit into English is done by A.B.van Buitenen




Written by S Nagarajan

Research Article No. 1689; Dated 4 March 2015.


Memory:Queen Draupadi of Mahabharata and Emperor Napoleon of France

Emperor Napoleon had an excellent memory. He memorized the rosters of his units and used to call the soldiers by name. It is estimated more than one lakh soldiers were in his army. Baron Meneval, Napoleon’s secretary, wrote in his memoirs that his memory had been described as ‘astonishing’. Various biographers describe his memory as ‘very retentive’, ‘near photographic, ‘prodigious’, and ‘phenomenal’.

Cyrus had a memory so prodigious that he knew by heart the names of all the officers and soldiers of his armies. Emperor Otho, the successor to Galba had learned the names of all the soldiers of his army. He used to call everyone by his proper name.


Similarly Mithridates , the famous king and emperor Adrianius knew by heart the names of all their soldiers. Themistocles was able to remember thirty thousand citizens of Athens by name. Xerxes was reputed to be able to recall the names of the one lakh soldiers in his armies. We believe all these statements without raising any question.


Let us compare these interesting facts with the photographic memory of Queen Draupadi of Mahabharata. She revealed her very rare qualities to the Queen Sathyabama, the wife of Lord Krishna in an intimate chat. She informed Sathyabama that one lakh sixty thousand Brahmanas (priestly class) were daily fed in the palace of Yudhishthira. He also had a hundred thousand well-dressed serving maids with bracelets on arms and golden ornaments on necks, and decked with costly garlands. They were all skilled in singing and dancing. Draupadi knew the names and features of all those girls, as also what they are and what they were, and what they did not.

Yudhishthira had also a hundred thousand maid-servants. These servants daily used to feed guests, with plates of gold in their hands. And while Yudhishthira lived in Indraprastha a hundred thousand horses and a hundred thousand elephants used to follow in his train. These were the possessions of Yudhishthira while he ruled the earth. It was Draupadi, however, who regulated their number and framed the rules to be observed in respect of them; and it was she who had to listen to all complaints about them. Indeed she knew everything about what the maid-servants of the palace and other classes of attendants, even the cow-herds and the shepherds of the royal establishment, did or did not! We are astonished with the statements of Draupadi.


When we compare these statistics with that of Napoleon and other kings we are compelled to admire how sharp was her intellect and memory!While we are ready to believe historians like Pliny, the same way we have to believe the statements of the great Queen Draupadi also. This astonishing memory is one of her qualities only. The women of the world should learn more about Draupadi and should follow her footsteps by developing rare skills.

Note:  The original Sanskrit slokas of Mahabharata were translated by sri Ganguly in 1873-1886. The English version has been taken from public domain and for authenticity sake used here. Readers could download the full Mahabharata from net.

Draupadi and Tamil Heroines

Picture shows Angry Kannaki

Draupadi, wife of Pancha Pandavas came from Punjab. She was a heroic woman. She was called Draupadi because she was the daughter of Drupada, King of Punjab/Panchala. She was also known as Panchali because she was a woman from Punjab/Panchala. She had another name Yagnaseni because she was born out of a holy fire/Yagna.

People of Punjab were famous for their heroic deeds. They protected Hindus from the onslaught of foreign invaders for over two thousand years. Draupadi was an intelligent woman, but she was an arrogant princess as well when she got married to the Pandavas. When the Pandavas constructed a new palace, Duryodhana and others were invited to view the palace. It was so beautifully done that Duryodhana mistook its crystal floor for water and lifted his clothes to step in carefully. Draupadi who watched it from the balcony burst into laughter. Women should never laugh at men, that too for silly mistake, like this. Duryodhana and his brothers were already burning with jealousy. This laughter rubbed salt into their wounds.  They were all waiting for an opportunity to take revenge upon her.

When Dharama (Yudhistra), eldest of the five Pandava brothers, lost everything in the gambling, Sakuni, the most wicked uncle of Dhuryodana provoked Dharma to stake his wife Draupadi in the game of dice. When he did this and lost again,  Duryodhana ordered his brother to undress Draupadi. When she was dragged into the court in front of all the elders in the Royal Assembly, nobody raised a finger against Duryodhana or advised him against this un holy, un Hindu act of molesting a woman in public.

But Draupadi asked them what right Dharma had over her when his independence was already lost in the gambling. She argued like an efficient solicitor. She asked the elders in the Royal Assembly to speak up. No one could answer her questions. But Krishna came to her rescue and saved her modesty. When Duschasana, brother of Duryodhana, tried to denude her by pulling her sari, it became longer and longer and there was no end to the garment. Krishna played many magical tricks throughout the Mahabaharata warand this was one of them. Beyond Krishna’s magical gifts, Hindus believe that chaste women can control even Nature’s forces. Tamils believe that a chaste woman can bring rains and stop anything at their will power. A woman can make or mar a man and she can make or destroy a country.

Draupadi Vs Tamil Heroines

In Tamil country, we have a great heroine by name Kannaki. Her full story is given in the great Tamil epic Silappadikaram. When her husband Kovalan was falsely accused of stealing Pandyan queen’s anklet and executed without proper enquiry, she went straight to the Royal court and challenged the king. Like Draupadi she also argued her case and proved that she was right. The ashamed Pandya king died of heart attack on the spot. Since such an injustice had never happened in the country his wife/the queen also died of heart attack. But yet Kannaki’s anger did not subside and she walked through the streets of Madurai and invoked God of fire to burn all the bad elements in Madurai, the capital city of Pandya kingdom. This is a famous story every Tamil knew. But there was another fiery woman who lived nearer her time who was not known even by Tamils. Her name was AnnI Njimili. Her unusual name itself is a tongue twister.

Anni njimili was an ordinary innocent village girl. Her father was also equally humble and a poor man. He used to take his cows for grazing every day. Kosars, a clan who were famous for their truthful words, were controlling that area. It was Anni Njimi family’s bad luck that the cows went into the field of Kosars. Immediately they arrested Anni Njimili’s father and took him to their leader. He ordered his servants to gouge his eyes. But knowing the seriousness of the situation, Anni went with all the elders of the village and begged him to pardon her dad. The arrogant Kosars did not listen to her and Anni’s dad lost his eyes.

When Draupadi was insulted in the royal court she made a vow not to tie her hair till she saw the end of Duryodhana. Probabbly Anni Njimili knew the story of Draupadi. Mahabharata and Ramayana were very popular in Tamilnadu two thousand years ago that we have new anecdotes in Tamil which were not found in Sanskrit versions of the epics. (Please read my Articles: WHERE IS RAMA STU? and TWO ANIMALS THAT INSPIRED INDIANS in the blogs). Anni also made the same vows. She swore that she wouldn’t eat or dress herself properly till the wrongdoers were punished.

Like Draupadi and Kannaki , Anni was very clever and she was looking for a hero who would punish the bad people. She had heard about valorous Thithiyan of Azunthur. She went to Azunthur and told him what happened. When Thithiyan saw the conviction of this girl, her love and affection for her dad and her determination to punish the bad people ,he made up his mind. He promised her that he would finish off the people who did this to her father. As promised, Thithian went to Kosar country and killed the people who did the barbaric act of gouging her dad’s eyes just for grazing the cows. On that day her angry face changed to beautiful face of a woman. Sangam Tamil poems written two thousand years ago praised her heroic act and determination in Akananuru  verses 196 and 262. Paranar who never missed any of the important events of his days like a war correspondent, recorded this incident in his beautiful poem.